Have you noticed how everyone around you, including you, is tired all the time? I have personally witnessed more overall complaining about life this year than ever before, and it seems to be affecting a great deal of people’s health and vitality.
I am also sad to say that it seems a great deal more people that I know in their forties have cancer and other severe conditions that they are too young to have and although social media makes us much more aware of these things, the statistics are becoming worrisome and downright sad.
Let’s face it! We are glued to technology and it’s beating the crap out of us. How often are you in the middle of a conversation and the person you are talking to picks up their phone and starts texting in the middle of the sentence? When did this become OK?
We are becoming slaves to our computers, phones, and Ipads and it’s creating a great deal of stress and anxiety because there are no more boundaries. Some people actually get agitated if you don’t answer there text or email quickly enough, and they seem to have no regard to the fact that you might be working or in the middle of a family event or doing something personal!
And don’t get me started on email alerts that pop up on your computer causing you to stop in the middle of a project to answer an email.
If you feel exhausted then here are some tips to get your strength and your sanity back.
This means that it’s ok to say no in a loving way. It’s ok to take time out for yourself and put yourself first. Remember what they say in airplanes – if the pressure changes, put the mask on yourself first and then your child.
That’s because if you aren’t healthy, you can’t take care of your business, your family, or your friends in need. Put your health first and make time in the morning to mediate, workout, or just sit outside on the patio with a cup of coffee.
Take time in the evening when you get home from work, and allow yourself that extra downtime to shift gears. If you are a stay at home parent, then when your significant other gets home, take a bubble bath or a walk outside and breath some fresh air.
I understand there are a lot of single parents out there, and I was one of them for a long time. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from family or friends to get a short break – even thirty minutes, to refresh yourself.
When my son was younger a group of us took turns having 3 boys over to our houses, so that all the moms got free babysitting 3 out of 4 Fridays. Be creative! Your health depends on it.
This is absolutely necessary and not an option! You have a lot to do personally, professionally, with your family and to have fun! In order to do this you must carve out time for each section and you must stick to it.
Honestly how many emergencies are there that you can stay within a balanced schedule to allow for all of the parts of your life that you need, including for yourself? Not everyone likes lists, but they can be helpful if you realize that life keeps going and the list is never done.
I like to make lists in an email so that I can prioritize and delete things as I do them, but a lot of people still like to write things down and then cross them off (that feels good right?). Do a page, or email for each section – the things you do for yourself to keep sane in #1, the things you do for work both functionally and creatively can go into two separate lists, the things you do for your spouse, kids and the household in general, and most importantly fun!
What’s the point of everything else if you can’t enjoy yourself and the fruits of your labor?
Worry and stress come from thinking too far ahead. It’s as simple as that. If you are totally present in everything you do, even taking a shower, driving down the road, or doing something on your computer that’s not so fun like paying bills, I promise you that your stress level will reduce significantly.
Being present allows you to take time to yourself and really benefit from it. It allows you to be more creative because creativity gets blocked when we are stress as it releases hormones that keep us from being inspired!
Being present helps us get through the painful task of our jobs, businesses, and home life that aren’t so fun. Let’s face it- you may love your job and family but there are still a few things you don’t enjoy doing (like laundry, have you ever tried to “be present” while doing laundry?)
Being present when you are having fun, allows you to actually have fun! How can you enjoy your free time, no matter how small it is if you are stressing about tomorrow.
Most importantly being present will allow you to sleep and we have a record breaking amount of people not sleeping or depending on pills with side effects to do so.
Create your boundaries and stick them, have balance in your own personal schedule that includes yourself, your work, and your personal life, and be present in everything you do and notice this week how your stress is literally cut in half and replaced by peace and acceptance of what is.
Have a great week everyone!